See If It Sticks
January 29th, 2010As the first month of the New Year comes to a close, I am taking a moment to reflect on my new “If you build it” approach to dating.
I have to admit, so far, so good.
It’s been an interesting experiment. Actually it’s not really fair to call it an experiment, because currently it’s my new way of life. Well, my new way of dating life. You know the phrase, “It’s like spaghetti – throw it against the wall and see what sticks” (or it goes something like that)… Well, that’s what I’m doing. Instead of being SO picky, I’m just seeing what sticks. I may not like his hair, or his taste in clothes, or that dumb necklace he’s wearing, but instead of tossing him aside for superficial reasons, I’m seeing if he sticks.
I may not have heard from the cute salt and pepper guy with the dimples who asked “What’s wrong with me” for being 38 and never married, but you know what? I had a fun date anyway. It wasn’t a total waste of two hours, he was cute and he made me laugh and I don’t have to be bitter and chalk it up to a waste – I can chalk it up to “if you build it…”
Yep, new year, new outlook.
I may not have heard from the super young guy yet, but you know what? I had a great date. He was cute and smart and hilarious, and I got to make out like I was in junior high – okay, maybe high school. I don’t have to chalk it up at all – I’m still smiling at just the thought of it. I have a funny feeling he’ll call again at some point. I’m a pretty good kisser myself.
Not to mention the dry humping…
And the coffee date I had yesterday? Not so bad either. He was possibly a little too ADD and sent his cappuccino back, but those are no longer deal breakers. For now, they are being tucked away, and not enough to “un-stick” him. He was sexy, and smart, and in his defense, he did order a cappuccino, not the latte he was given.
I have date number two with a “nice guy” tonight. In the old days, I would have totally blown him off already. I’m not positive that there is romantic chemistry, he’s quite possibly a little too boring for me, but you know what? He’s a NICE guy. And he likes me. So, instead of throwing him away for the small doubts, why not choose the small hopes instead and throw him against the wall to see if he sticks?
And if he doesn’t, there’s a whole other bag of spaghetti out there.
I’m kind of still curious about the whole father/son combo…
