A Little More Of This

Let me start out by saying I love that you all bitch and complain – it means you’re reading our blog and that really excites us! Rather than responding in the comment section, we think this subject deserves one more post… And maybe one more after that…

First – with regards to Mrs. Perfect Marriage – of course I know that there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. In fact, I hear you all loud and clear, no ass-smoke-blowing needed. So let me clarify what I meant to say – her marriage is perfect to ME. I highly doubt it’s perfect to her – she’s in it every minute of every day. But for me, it’s exactly what I think a marriage should be, and what I would want for my own marriage. They love and respect each other, they have beautiful, happy children, they laugh together (a lot) and they have regular sex (a lot). Most importantly, when you walk into their house, you don’t feel that stupid crappy tension cloud that often hovers in unhappy households – I know you know what I’m talking about. My male counterpart certainly knows what I’m talking about.

Before I move onto complaint #2… This blog is designed in such a way that I, a female, get to say whatever it is I’m doing or feeling whenever I do it or feel it, and in return I get an honest, no-holds-barred point of view from a man who has no motive other than to tell me exactly what he thinks, exactly when he thinks it (because that’s his job). That being said, we love that there is controversy regarding what I say and do, and what he thinks of it. That’s exactly what we intended when we began this online journey.

“Anonymous #1” said, “You absolutely could ask someone out, or invite them to your house for dinner, just don’t seem “needy” to him.” Huh? How does one seem needy when they invite a guy to their immaculate house and cook him a kick-ass dinner? I can only assume that what you meant to say was, “Invite him to your house for dinner, but don’t beg him to have sex with you because you’ll seem needy.” Okay people, give me a little credit. But, point taken. Do guys really think that we’re begging them to stay when we invite them over? As far as I’m concerned, a great guy is one who doesn’t stay over. But that’s just me.

From “Anonymous #2”: (I love that no one will leave their name, but then again, I’m a big hypocrite – my official name is “Her.”) “I’m good with calling a guy and putting yourself in a situation that makes it easier for him to ask you out…but I agree with your old-fashioned friend…I don’t think you should ask the guy out.” WHAT???? Okay, what does that mean, “put yourself in a situation?” You mean, like sit at a bar with an LED flashing on my forehead that says “Ask me out!” My friends and family put me in that situation every day. My mother once gave my phone number to someone in line at the post office.

I think we can debate this subject until we’re blue in the face. In hindsight do I think I should have asked Blind Date Guy out when I had only been on 2 informal dates with him? Probably not. Do I think I make dating mistake after dating mistake? Probably.

But I have to hope that someday, somewhere, there will be someone who will appreciate my dating clumsiness, and he will  be attracted to the fact that no matter what game I play and fumble at, I’m still, simply, me.

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