“D” Is For Dumb-Ass
September 14th, 2009
There are so many points where what you’ve been through is just plain WRONG, I truly don’t know where to start. I am left to ask myself, what if this had happened to me. What, if anything could I, or would I, or should I have done to make sure a dream this bad was truly just a dream? I come up as empty as you have.
Under the heading of “the greatest wisdom is often the simplest,” the answer can only be that there is no answer. There is no explanation. As lame as that is, I have even worse news. As far as your average man is concerned, Extra-Large Jerk is not inordinately cruel or evil. In fact, he is a better man than most you’ll come across… a better man with a dumb-ass streak that should make you feel as lucky as you do hurt that your life is no longer going to happen with him.
It’s okay if your boyfriend isn’t that smart… as long as he’s sweet and thoughtful. And it’s okay if your boyfriend isn’t rich or successful… as long as you are, and you never have to ask yourself if he really, really loves you. And it’s okay if your boyfriend isn’t handsome, because women eventually become attracted to the men they fall in love with. What’s never, EVER okay is for your boyfriend to be a dumb-ass. Because nobody likes a dumb-ass. And the thing about a dumb-ass is, he can fool you for a while. He can pull aces when it comes to the first month or two, never exposing his fatal flaw. However, sooner or later it’s guaranteed that a dumb-ass will show his true self. That’s what dumb-asses do and that’s what he did to you.
I know you’re hurt and I know it’s easy to call it from the cheap seats, but you are truly better off. Only a dumb-ass would tell a woman as good-looking as you that she’s not attractive enough for him. Only a dumb-ass would look in the mirror and think he could actually do better than you. Only a dumb-ass would take the lemonade you’ve been serving him this whole time and turn it into lemons. Once you stop believing what he said and stop being angry at him for saying it, you’ll realize this. Within seconds of this realization, you will move on and never look back.
The easiest thing in the world is to believe our worst fears about ourselves. When somebody pushes that button, it resonates to our core… So let it resonate inside you - for a minute. Be the chick with a broken heart – for a minute. But while you’re doing this, remember to tell yourself one thing, out loud, over and over…
“He did me a favor… He did me a favor… He did me a favor.”
